Okay, so lets get real about a few things. First of all, I have a new graphic tee obsession. I am loving all the graphic tees I am seeing when I shop. There are so many with different sayings on them now, and there seems to be one for every mood! I currently own ones that say, But First Coffee, Latte Now Yoga Later, You’re Killing Me Smalls, So Far So Good, and of course my Inspire and Be Inspired graphic tee that I am wearing in my photos. I love graphic tees because they are extremely comfortable and can look instantly stylish. Just put on your favorite skinny jeans, your comfy graphic tee, throw a cardigan over it, and you are good to go. If you want to get fancier, just add some jewelry, a beanie or scarf, and some awesome boots. I suggest combats or a great knee/thigh high boot. 😉
This particular shirt is very dear to me because of the words on it. I started my blog to do this very thing. I wanted to inspire women through my love for fashion, showing them simple ways they could add style to their wardrobe to help them feel stylish and confident. I also wanted to be inspired, and blogging does that for me. I highly encourage anyone to go out and find what inspires them, whether it is fashion, interior design, DIY, food, photography, teaching, being a mother, etc. Just go out and do it. It is so exhilarating and liberating when you find something you feel like you are meant to do, and it gives you joy beyond your wildest dreams.
Now on the flip side, I wanted to talk about the realness of dealing with depression during the winter months. Personally, I have been able to keep away from it for the past few years, but this winter season I unfortunately could not. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I wanted to write about it in my post because I know that I am not the only one who goes through this. Whether you’re a college student struggling to fit in, taking your classes, and you just cannot shake the feeling and despair of being alone a midst a crowd of people, or you are a mom with bills, chores, kids, and everything pilling up on you, and you feel completely debilitated and overwhelmed, please know you are not alone. Know that it is only a season, and through help either spiritually, physically, emotionally, or medically, you can and will feel better.
The thing that has kept me positive and going through this season is my blog, and, not going to lie, graphic tee shirts that remind me of my joy for creativity and passion for helping others. But blogging gives me so much joy. I relish the idea everyday of putting together content that is creative, stylish, trendy, fun, and will hopefully bring a smile to someone that day. These moments of bliss out way the dreariness. But to be honest, at times when I stop and I am alone, the depression hits me, or sometimes it just comes out of nowhere even when I am with people I love. It feels like being hit by a tsunami and it overwhelms and paralyzes me. I have to remind myself in these moments that, “This too shall pass.”
It is hard to explain to people who have never experienced it. So I wanted to give some advice if someone in your life is going through it. Please be patient, kind, gentle, and above all be loving. It is uncontrollable. I think people believe depression is just another emotion or aspect of your life that you can control. But in all honestly, if you do your research hard enough, you will find that depression is something that people have no control over. No one wants to experience depression. Why would anyone ever want to feel that low or lonely? So be patient, and do not treat depression as if it is nothing. If someone you love is dealing with depression make sure you let them know they are loved, they are not alone, that this feeling will not last forever, and that you are going to be there for them through it all. Do not belittle someone who is dealing with depression, or what they are experiencing. That is one of the most discouraging things someone experiencing depression can hear or feel. So please realize and believe me when I say, it is not their choice to feel the way they do. They just need help going through it.
Now if you are someone who struggles as I do, know that you are not alone. It is okay to be depressed. It does not make you any less of a human being or person of great significance. You still have worth and are worthy. You are still loved, and are loving. You’re thoughts and feelings are just clouded right now, but eventually the sky will clear. I only urge you to take action even when you feel like you cannot move even one step. I know it is easier said then done. Trust me, I have been there, and I am there. Whether it’s going to counseling, praying, reading a book, or sipping a hot cup of coffee and enjoying a few minutes of it in solitude, do something you love. Do something that will take away the darkness, and let some light in. Look deep inside, even down to your childlike ambitions and desires, and marinate on them. See what excites you, and do it, all while realizing that this depression is just a season, and it will pass.
I hope this post leaves you with a little warmth and love. Whether you are the one struggling, or you know and love someone who is, hopefully this blog post was helpful in some way. So either go out and love on someone you know is hurting, or if you are the one hurting try and go out and do one small thing to make yourself happy today. For me sometimes that means hanging up encouraging words on my walls in my room, or it’s putting on my favorite graphic tee that reminds me of my passions and ambitions. Find your happiness amidst the dreariness today. I know it is hard, but it is possible.
Thanks for reading and please feel free to leave a comment or message me personally if you want or need to talk!
Bomber Jacket: Forever 21 / Cardigan: Forever 21 / T-shirt: Marshalls / Jeggings: American Eagle / Hat, Scarf, and Gloves: Target Boots: Hunter